The death of a loved one is one of the most emotional experiences a person will ever face. There is a seemimgly endless number of decisions to be made while a person wanders around in a fog. We cannot take away the pain of your grief, but we can make the arrangement process as easy and painless as possible. Regardless of the type of service a family chooses, we can help them feel that they have cared for their loved one with honor and dignity. Tulocay Funeral Home is a place to CELEBRATE LIFE!
For 150 years, Tulocay Cemetery has served the Napa Valley as a place of honor and memory. And with the opening of our full service Funeral Home in June 2009, we can now more fully serve families with compassion and grace during a most difficult time in their lives.
A service accomplishes three things for the surviving family members and friends:
Bringing acceptance. Sociologists and anthropologists note that death rituals such as wakes, funerals and burials are important ways of acknowledging that death has really occurred. This is necessary so people can move forward in a healthy grieving process by coming to acceptance. According to the Batesville Casket Company, "The funeral is about mental health and healing."
Social support. Sociologists also say that these rituals help resolve guilt, anger and relationships. It's common for people to have feelings of regrets for what they did or didn't do during the deceased individual's life. For those attending the service, and especially for those choosing the kind of service to have, it's the last opportunity to do the right thing for the deceased. The service is also a time to gather social support for the survivors. Social support can reduce stress and solve practical problems. When someone dies, it leaves a hole in the fabric of a social system that needs to be filled.
Celebration. While traditional funerals have been considered somber affairs, people are increasingly demanding more of a sense of celebration for the life of the departed. The funeral is an acknowledgement that the individual is gone, and may have been all that was needed when families lived close together. Since family's generally live far apart in modern society, a celebration is an opportunity for people who haven't seen each other in years to interact. It's a time for people to lightly reflect on the gift that person gave us by being among us. Refreshments lighten the mood and are a way of sharing. Pictures of the deceased help bring out memories and stories. There can be laughter as well as tears. There is healing in both.
Current member of The Cemetery & Mortuary Association of California
The Cemetery & Mortuary Association of California has served cemeteries and mortuaries here in California since 1931. Upon its founding, the CMAC sponsored the California Cemetery Act under the belief that sound protection of consumers and endowment care funds was the best long-term interest of the industry. Today, the CMAC membership is composed of cemeteries of all types: for-profit, not-for-profit, religious and fraternal.
The Members of the Interment Association of California voted unanimously at our Spring Conference in Coronado to re-vitalize our association with the new name Cemetery and Mortuary Association of California.
The caring and experienced professionals at Tulocay Cemetery Funeral Home & Crematory are here to support you through this difficult time.
We offer a range of personalized services to suit your family’s wishes and requirements. You can count on us to help you plan a personal, lasting tribute to your loved one, and we’ll carefully guide you through the many decisions that must be made during this challenging time. You are welcome to call us at any time of the day, any day of the week, for immediate assistance or visit our funeral home in person at your convenience.
We also provide a wealth of information here on our web site so you can learn more about us from the privacy of your own home.
A death can be emotionally devastating and financially difficult. We are here to help, with a welcoming and comfortable environment to receive family and friends. When it comes to pre-planning for yourself and your spouse, or making final arrangements for someone you love, we provide quality and caring service to you and your family.